Mom's Just Want To Be Sick!

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It's not that I look forward to being sick, I just hope that when I get sick I am ABLE to just get the same treatment as my kids or have the Legendary Man Cold. The difference is mom's get sick a lot more than men. I have no statistic to prove this however I don't consider it necessary. When my husband gets sick he stays home, stays in bed, gets a quiet space to themselves, therefore gives him an opportunity to heal quicker. Myself however still has to get out of bed get my daughter ready for school, make sure the middle child got something to eat without half of the milk all over the floor and try not to wake the nursing one so they don't need me for a little while longer.

When you are not feeling well and all you want to do is lay down, but as a mom the day keeps moving rarest of events dad's get to stay home to help with the kids. As a military spouse I feel that this is worse especially when your spouse hates to take leave due to how much harder it is for him to catch up on everything. The answer isn't hire a baby-sitter in this situation. If your sick why would you send your kids off to share the germs with them. So I slowly roll out of bed, wake up the oldest, roll back in bed and hope that I don't see the next one for a long while. However, the 6-year-old doesn't know how to control her volume and sooner than later and I am off to brave the day.

Sore throat, Headache, Body-ache, doesn't matter bc responsibility kicks in. Those things are still there, waiting for what few things you can take because you are nursing and it seems like there are far less things you can take while nursing that while you're pregnant. It's always one thing after another, every chance you get to sit is quickly interrupted.

On days I'm under the weather I hope that my kid just wants me to hold them . Sit there and spend several hours of screen time. I understand how neglecting it might sound to put my kid in front of a tv for most of the day. Being under the weather i think calls all bets off about screen time. When telling a Health Care Provider that your kid only spends an hour or two on any kind of screen , I don't understand why most lie and say it's not that long but you know you have those days, The ones where the baby was up all night and your body is just drained. There is also those long weeks where one kid gets sick one after another and just as they better its your turn to join the fun and be sick.

When there is no help as a sick mom going to the doctors is out of the question. It is far more painful to drag the kids out of the house, load and unload them in the car, deal with the fighting and being ignored as if your sick voice says, "You don't have to listen to Mommy today, Carry on as you please." Comparatively worse than a doctor's appointment for one of the kids, with the constant interruption so stopping them from climbing all over you the chairs each other. It's a dreadful experience that I avoid as much as possible. So instead of making sure everything is okay or getting antibiotics for anything we stay home and deal and feel guilty later on for being cranky.

Mom's are extra cranky when they are sick. There is no one to rub our backs, make us a cup of tea, send us off to bed and sleep for the next 24 hours. No one to go search for the medication we need or fill up tour water. For myself when I'm sick, I do the very least for myself an unbelievable amount of neglect when it comes to me. I feel like I did not have a good example with my mother growing up. She never went shopping, even less when it came to makeup and other personal items. If I recall correctly I don't remember her being sick other than allergies, but that doesn't mean she didn't "mom up" . We just "Mom Up" and try to get through our day with the least amount of yelling and fighting as possible.

I thought being a mom is the most difficult thing I've ever had to do, with being a wife a close second. However, I'm realizing that taking care of myself is the hardest. Responsibility of taking care of my kids will always be a struggle for priority especially while they are young, but taking a shameless nap while the tv babysit's their attention is worth it if it's all I have now for my self-care to get me through the rest of the day. #IWANTAMANCOLD